The recent spate of killings because of domestic violence is to say the least extremely worrying. And what makes it even more so, is that its this nations women that are been killed. It’s an assault on the Nations future and a serious blot on our collective consciences.
The causes of domestic violence is wide, long and varied and will need many things, working in tandem to be brought under control. One of the many causes is how people in relationships behave when it comes to commitment. Most if not all of these deaths, in one way or another is linked to infidelity, on one or both of the participants side. The idea many times is that because one of the participants is doing it, then the other should take revenge by doing the same. That’s madness.
Just because one participant does it doesn’t mean the other should. While we do not live in a perfect world, where relationships are so rooted in love and fulfilling, that nothing bad will ever happen, there is an urgent need for this Nation to take a real long and hard look at what relationships should be like.
Too many people go into relationships based on convenience rather than love. Too many women are compelled for whatever reasons to “Shack up” with men, that only wants one thing, and that ain’t love. The whole business of how our culture reinforces, and in many cases create a false perception of what a relationship should be like, and what roles should both partners play, needs to be torn down and reconstructed properly. We as a Nation cannot afford the misconceptions over relationship, to go unchallenged. We are seeing the consequences of that now.
We need intervention not only in resolving conflicts peacefully, but what constitutes a good relationship. In the olden days, not so long ago, relationships used to be based on love for each other, and understanding of each others strengths and weaknesses. With that as the basis, partners used to compromise on a lot of things to make it work. Now that ain’t so anymore.
What has taken over, is a, virulent strain of “so-called Independence” that is leading to less and less of compromises. The idea that “I am free to do what I want, regardless of what you think” is helping to ruin lives left, right and center. Relationships nowadays is more akin to Capitalism-supply and demand.
The notion of commitment is a foreign idea to most Jamaicans, as the “gal ina bungle”, and “the one man can’t satisfy her”attitude reigns supreme.
To halt and eventually eradicate this scourge, it will take a lot, and it will be long and hard. But,it’s the view of LBC that a campaign be launched targeted at informing Jamaicans about what constitutes a healthy, productive and peaceful relationship. At the very least. The usual entities and institutions must come together to launch this campaign. Our schools must be targeted too, as a lot of the problems that leads to these domestic violence, has its genesis in the minds of these men and women from an early age.
We cannot continue to have in a Five year span-2001-2006,49,047 cases of domestic violence, the vast majority been perpetrated against our women, hundreds resulting in deaths or injuries. This is absolute madness.
LBC is not offering a wholesale one size fits all approach, but advocating for the start of something to roll back this alarming and deeply troubling situation. We cannot have our ladies been slaughtered like animals, and our men thrown into jail. Not to mention the children left behind that will not have a Father or a Mother to grow them up into fine upstanding and productive citizens.